Don't Let The Opinions Of Others Drown You

00:00You create the entire picture of the body, the goal, in your own mind, and in that picture, you are the main character. What's going on, you guys? Welcome back to The WarriorBabe Show with Nikkie Stott, co-founder and brand personality of WarriorBabe, where we talk about mindset, methodologies, and tactics that will help you lose body fat, build muscle, be strong, and feel insanely confident. I am your host, Nikkie Stott, and welcome to episode number 17, all about not letting the opinions of others drown you.

00:41I feel like this, especially with the new year and everybody wanting to go, you know, and do their thing and accomplish the goal and strive for this and do this differently, you probably got the flock of opinions from your loved ones, your friends, your distant cousins, like, coming into play right now that are probably, and may, like, be drowning you, and may be, honestly, the reason why you aren't maybe progressing forward. One of the reasons, right? So what I want to talk about today is not letting those opinions drown you, you staying in your own thought process, your own lane,

01:17and making sure you're doing all of the things that are in alignment with the goals that you want to accomplish. So to kick it off, please don't take anything personally. That's the podcast, guys. Done. Don't take anything personally. And this is going to come from this awesome book called The Four Agreements, and this is the second of The Four Agreements. That book is by Don Ruiz. Don't take anything personally, okay? And I highly recommend that book, that read. It's super quick, and it will put you in a growth mentality real quick if you struggle with standing your own ground

01:52and feeling confident within yourself and the goals that you want to achieve. So definitely check it out. But don't take anything personally. Like, seriously, whatever happens around you, don't take it personally. Like, some of you guys may experience somebody say, like a friend, a family member, a husband, you know, a partner, hey, you won't or you can't accomplish that goal. Guys, it has nothing to do with you when they're saying that, but everything to do with them. And if you take it personally, then it's safe to say you believe that you can't accomplish the goal.

02:25And if that's the case, then you're super easily influenced by somebody else's opinion. Okay, if somebody, like, says, hey, you won't or you can't accomplish that and you believe that, then you're easily influenced by that person's opinion. Yet that person's opinion has absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with the thought processes that are going inside of their head. It has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with themselves. All people live in their own mind. They are in a completely different world from the one that you live in.

02:55And when you guys do take something personally and let other people's opinions influence you, you guys make the assumption that they know what is going on in your own mind. Right? And we make the assumption that they know what our goals are. They know what it feels like. They know X, Y, and Z. But they have no idea. There's no way they possibly can know that. They don't see what you see. They're not in your head. They don't feel what you want to accomplish. They don't know what this means to you. They don't see the vision that you're holding of the body that you want and the feeling of confidence and all this jazz.

03:29They have no idea. What they say, what they do, and the opinions that they give are 100% according to the beliefs that they have in their own mind. So when someone says, hey, you won't or you can't accomplish that goal, what they're really saying is, hey, I won't or I can't accomplish a type of goal she is going for. But the thing is, they don't say it that way. They just project that onto you. Their point of view comes from all of the programming, all of the beliefs,

04:05all the things that they've received throughout their entire lifetime. So if someone gives you the opinion and says you aren't going to succeed at yet another fitness program, guys, don't take it personally. Like when that happens, just stand there. Allow them to say that. But like you have to have, I've talked about this in previous podcasts, like a force field around you where like that opinion cannot cross that force field. It like gets electrocuted and it goes the opposite direction back onto that person.

04:38Okay. Don't take it personally because the truth is that person or you, like if you are allowing this to happen, you're dealing and with them, if they're projecting it onto you, they're dealing with their own feelings, their own beliefs, their own opinions of failure at previous attempts of following a fitness program. Okay. Is that making sense? So like when somebody is projecting like this viewpoint comes to you, it's coming from all of their programming, all of the beliefs that they received throughout their lifetime. So if they're saying you're not going to succeed in another fitness program,

05:10it's because they in the past have not succeeded at a fitness program. And so they're projecting onto you, their feeling about how they didn't succeed, their belief of why they couldn't do it, and the opinions of all the failure that they've had in the previous attempts of trying to follow a fitness program. Okay. Guys, I've heard it so many times with warrior babes in our community say like, my family or my friends don't really support me on what I want to accomplish or do. Don't take it personally.

05:42Whatever they think and feel is their own problem. It has nothing personal to do with you because they're dealing with themselves, not you. Like, I don't know. I don't know how many different ways I could say it. I just, I want to just say in all different lights here, like it's, it's personal to them, has nothing to do with you. It's their own thought process. It has nothing to do with you. It's all of their programming, the beliefs of what they experienced in the past. It has nothing to do with you, but only those experiences in the past that they're projecting onto you.

06:13Okay. Others are going to give their own opinion according to their own belief system. So nothing they think about in relation to you is really about you. It is entirely about them. You create the entire picture of the body, the goal in your own mind. And in that picture, you are the main character. Everyone else is secondary. It is your own vision of what you want to accomplish.

06:45And the way you see that picture is according to the beliefs that you have made in your own life. If you think you can, you will. If you don't think you can, you won't. And you will be easily influenced by the flock of opinions that come your way along your journey. So you need to make sure that you have strong rooted beliefs in what you want to accomplish, regardless of anything you've experienced in the past. Right now, you firmly believe that you know you can accomplish this.

07:18And that is all that matters. Then you put this force field around you. And you go and do the things that are going to make you believe even more that you're going to accomplish the goal that you want. But if you don't think you can, in this moment, you are relying on all past feelings, on all past attempts. And then somebody comes up to you and says all of these things that are in a negative tone to what you want to accomplish. Guess what? You are so easily influenced by those opinions that are going to come your way along your journey. And that could be speed bump after speed bump after speed bump.

07:48And you may not even be noticing this. This could be all happening unconsciously. Right? But this is like, I want to just break through that unconscious barrier right now. Make you conscious about this. Don't let the speed bumps happen. Put the force field around you. And don't let anything come into it. Believe you can. Go do it. Believe you can. Start taking actions that are going to make you believe in more that you can. And accomplish what you want. Okay? Your point of view is something personal to you, you guys.

08:22It is no one's truth but yours. And you have to trust yourself. And you have to choose to believe or to not believe what someone says to you. Okay? As you practice not taking anything personally, guys, you won't need to place your trust in what others say or do. Right? It's probably like, for example, like you love your husband dearly. Right? But yeah, he's seen all of the previous things that you failed or tried to do. And so he's saying you probably won't accomplish this new one that you want to go and try. But like you and you trust him.

08:52That's where this is like you believe him. But you have to trust yourself. And you have to choose to believe that you can do this. Okay? Not choose to believe what somebody else says. Okay? And when you do that, you won't need to place your trust anymore in what he says. You'll only need to trust yourself to make the responsible choices that support what you want to accomplish with the vision that you hold for yourself. That's all that matters. You have the vision that you want to accomplish.

09:22You believe that you can. You trust that you can. You have a force field around you. You start taking actions that make you believe more that you can. And then look at this. Three months, six months, eight months later. Holy cow. You're getting the results that you want. It's all about the vision that you hold for yourself. And that's it. Nobody else's vision. You are never responsible for the actions of others, you guys. You are only responsible for you. So the actions that you take daily should always be in alignment with what you want to accomplish. When you truly accept this, you won't be hurt by the careless comments people say or do inside or outside of your fitness lifestyle.

10:00Remember that. When you truly accept that the actions that you take daily should be in alignment with what you want to accomplish, you're never responsible for the actions of others. You're only responsible for yours. You have this vision that you need to uphold and you want to accomplish. When you truly accept that, you, dude, anybody can say anything to you and you will be unstoppable. You will be untouchable. Okay, guys, for example, this is why I have one of the big reasons. That's why I felt like I wanted to talk about this with you guys today. This is one of the big reasons why I have been so successful along my own journey.

10:33Second to discipline, second to taking action and being a go-getter. I don't care what people say about what I am going and striving for, right? At the beginning of my journey, cut back to beginning, I had friends that didn't support me along my journey, that didn't get what I was doing, had to comment about everything. But I held this vision so true in my mind and I was just like engulfed in the energy of that vision and what I wanted to accomplish that those friends are no longer my friends anymore. And now even like because I have that strong backbone at the beginning of my journey,

11:08now today I get comments that people like just like, I mean, I'm on my face on social media, right? I get comments every single day, careless comments from people. But it doesn't bother me because I am doing my own thing. I'm living my own truth. And that's what I want you guys to have the power to do too as well. Hey, hey, just want to drop a huge appreciation to you guys listening to the show. It means a lot. I hope you guys are enjoying it and there's so much more to come with it. If you are enjoying it, hit the subscribe button. I'd appreciate that tons.

11:39And also it would help this podcast reach others who need to hear these messages too. Thanks so much, guys. Let's get back to the show, right? And if you're ever in a situation like this going forward where you're a part of an opinion being dropped that like doesn't support you or like that's negative or like someone saying, hey, you won't or you can't accomplish this. Dude, stand your freaking ground. Stand up for what you want. Like, can I get an amen to that? Like, amen. Guys, like I just want this is how you're going to build your own confidence within yourself.

12:11When you stand the ground, when you say no, when you say hey, like or like somebody says a comment to you and you're like, you just like don't take it personally. So like you just like maybe there's like a little witty remark that you could say back and it was like, oh, why do you think that? And usually it's like there are the next explanations probably tied to something that they've experienced or they've saw in you in the past. It has to do everything with the past and has nothing to do with your future. All right. And you guys really quick to your surroundings shape your energy and your surroundings influence your performance dramatically.

12:44Everything outside you affects the way that you think, feel and execute. Literally everything. Your personal surroundings include the people that you have conversations with, the people that you follow on social media, the news that you consume, the books that you read, the food that you eat, the places you live and so much more. It all works together to either move forward or to hold you back. So you can't surround yourself with people who make you feel bad. Right. Like so whenever this happens, like for me, like the beginning, these were friends that I just didn't have the bandwidth to like hold a friendship anymore with them because they didn't support what I wanted to accomplish for myself.

13:24And so like I didn't surround myself with those people. And so when if this is something that you need to like learn how to tackle, what I would personally say in a recommendation is like put those you don't have to like cut ties if you don't want to, but you need to put those friends at a distance. Okay. You need to not have conversations with them every single day because their conversations are probably negative light towards what you want to accomplish. Right. Or not supportive to what you want to accomplish or they have a question for everything that you're doing. So you just need to kind of create more of a distance between that friendship and maybe check in like every other week.

13:59Right. Or have conversations with them. When you're getting the results, it's going to be a lot easier to like have conversations with them. They're like, oh, wow, you're actually doing it. And they're going to start believing it. Now everything's forward based there and not any more past based. But for the time being, it's like at the beginning, it may be hard to, you know, especially if you're just starting out and you haven't yet reaped any rewards yet. You haven't seen the payoff for yourself. It's like you need to just put those people at a distance. And or like if it's your husband or somebody that doesn't support you along your journey or like a partner of yours that you're living with every single day and you see them all the time.

14:35The most important thing that I can say you should do is to have a conversation with that individual. Sit them down. Get them to understand that whatever you did in the past, you understand that maybe you haven't succeeded at. But right now you want to make a change for yourself because you want to feel better. You want to be more confident. You want to see progress within yourself. You want to prove it to yourself, which that will prove it to other people. Prove it to yourself first and have an honest conversation with them. And be like, I need you to support me in this. You're my best friend. I love you to death.

15:05What you say, I trust. Right? So like sit down with them. Sit down with your husband. Stand your ground and be like, dude, I just need your support with this. Please like just help me. Help me. Don't negatively comment on things. Like just help me help myself move forward. Right? So make sure you guys stand your ground. All right? Don't spend time in toxic environments. Don't spend time with toxic people. Don't surround yourself with people who make you feel bad. Don't surround people who comment on everything in a negative way on what you're doing and why you're doing it.

15:40Make sure you stand your ground. You increase your inspiration doing the things that increase your inspiration. Okay? Do the things that increase your inspiration doing the things that increase your inspiration. It sounds easy, but it's harder said than done. And I get that. But I wanted these. I gave you some takeaways there on what you can do right now. Put up your forest field. Stand your ground. Have conversations. Put people at a distance. Stay true to you. Stay true to your vision on what you want.

16:10Know when something is negative coming to you. It's probably all past-based and not future-based. So recognize that. Be more conscious of the conversations that you're having with close friends and family members. And just, like, whatever is negative that doesn't support you, it's like, okay, you know, making a conscious awareness to this conversation right now. Put a forest field up. Just be like, oh, man, why do you think that? Right? Or, like, ask questions back to them. Okay, so it's something that you've experienced that you don't think you can.

16:40I mean, it will eventually get to that in the conversation. But, like, usually it's always about them. They're just reflecting it onto you. Okay? Make sure you actively protect your aspirations, you guys. Your goals. Your positivity. So you can generate the results that you truly want for yourself. Remember, nobody sees the goal that you have in your own mind. Nobody feels what you want to accomplish. Only you do. So you have to stay true to yourself. Stay true to your vision. Stay true to what you want. And anything that is in your surroundings, in your environment, in your reality, anything that's negative, it's just, like, put it at a distance.

17:16Put the forest field around you. And go on your way and win. And win. All right, you guys. So I hope this podcast helped you. If it did, screenshot it. Share it to social media. Tag me. I would love to see that. I would love to see that you guys are gaining value from these podcasts. I absolutely love doing them for you. I love speaking this to you because I know of all of the guys, all of you guys that are listening to this right now, there's, like, somebody who may be struggling with this the most, right? And they're going to take this. And all I ask is that you take this information.

17:48You take these tactics that I share with you. And you start to go apply into your everyday. All right, you guys. Cool. I'll see you next time. Peace out. Real quick. Real quick. The only ask I could ever have of you guys is to help spread the word so we can help more women lose body fat, build muscle, reach their goals, and feel insanely confident. And the only way we can do that is if you rate, review, and share this podcast. So the single thing I ask for you to do is if you could leave a review. It will take you 10 seconds. And it will mean the absolute world to me and may change the world of someone else.

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