This Mental Block Is Sabotaging Your Progress

00:00But you can't prioritize a workout or a meal prep. That's not laziness. That's just a misalignment. Like what I'm saying is you can show up for all of those things, but you can't prioritize you had a meal prep and a workout. And it's just because it's just not in alignment yet. What's going on, you guys? Hey, everyone. Welcome back to The WarriorBabe Show with Nikkie Stott, co-founder of WarriorBabe. And on this podcast, we talk about mindset, methodologies, and tactics that will help you lose body fat, build muscle, be strong, and feel insanely confident.

00:38I am your host, Nikkie Stott, and welcome to episode number 273. Y'all, before we even dive in, if you're watching this home video, my eyes probably look so glassy right now. And I just need to call that out because I'm seeing myself in the video. And for anybody that's on the East Coast, you guys know I'm from Philly, Pennsylvania. We got rocked with some electrifying thunderstorms last night. Like insane.

01:10Like pretty much the lightning was acting as if the lights were on in the house. Like and nonstop. And then got accompanied with the lightning within three seconds was massive thunder. And I felt like it went on all night long. It's one thing that I, you know, I can handle thunderstorms. Love them. It's the second thing if y'all know that I have a Doberman, Maverick. And if you've been following me for a while, y'all know that he does not like thunderstorms. Well, last night was the worst that I've ever encountered in his existence of four years.

01:45Of his whining and his shaking and his panting and his pacing. Guys, I think I got maybe an hour of sleep. And like I'm like this is welcoming me into childhood, right? Like I don't let him sleep in the bed. And last night I was like I just he's the only way he feels comfortable is allowing him to sleep in the bed. But he sleeps on top of me. Like his whole like his neck is on my neck. His body is on my body. I fell asleep in the most awkward position finally at four o'clock in the morning.

02:17Where I'm in the corner of the bed. Top right. And he's like on top of me. And I'm like barely hanging on the bed. I'm about to fall off. All in all to say I am tired. So if anybody is on the East Coast and y'all been getting rocked with thunderstorms. And maybe your dogs have been doing the same thing. I feel you. I'm in the same boat as you. And we're about to go on to this is being recorded on Tuesday, July 1st. We're about to go on to another round tonight. So just Godspeed. Say a prayer. Anyway, this is being released on Friday.

02:49So y'all will know the week that y'all had. And I'm there with you. Anyway, today's episode my friends. Let's get to it. Bear with me. Today's episode. First, I want to ask you guys a question. Have you guys ever said to yourself like, I'm so lazy. I'm so lazy because you couldn't stick to a workout plan. You couldn't stick to your macro plan. And I've been there. Like I get that. But the truth is it's not that you're lazy.

03:20And it's not that the laziness is holding you back. It's more so that you're just in like a misalignment. Like you're not in alignment with this vision that you have or this identity that you want to become or this, you know, this strategy that you are that you are now a part of of a workout plan or macro program. When those things don't line up, then your motivation is going to take a massive hit. So today I want to dive into like aligning those pieces for you guys so that action becomes just like automatic.

03:51It becomes so easy to do. It becomes just second nature for you guys. And you've probably heard me talk about this in one way or another in previous episodes before. But it's more so just like really latching on to the identity of who you want to become in that vision. But before we even dive into that, like, let's be real, like that term laziness is doing you guys such a major disservice. Like you are not lazy. You've been trying to force change into a system that wasn't built to support it yet.

04:23Think about it like this. Like you show up for work. You show up for your family. You show up in any other obligation that you are responsible for. You take your kids to practice. You cook around the house. You have responsibilities. You have work obligations. You have meetings. And you have events. Whatever it is. You have to show up for. You show up for those things. But you can't prioritize a workout or a meal prep. That's not laziness. That's just a misalignment. Like what I'm saying is you can show up for all of those things.

04:56But you can't prioritize you had a meal prep and a workout. And it's just because it's just not in alignment yet. Without you guys having like a crystal clear vision on what you want. It's so easy to drift. It's so easy to sway away from the meal prep or the workout plan. Without you guys having like a strong identity. Your mind doesn't support the action yet. And without like a smart strategy. Even you guys who are so motivated.

05:28And have a motivated mind. It's still going to be hard to sustain any type of change. And so what I want to do is create like this. And like that gap. That gap creates resistance. Like the gap of you have this vision. But your mind doesn't support it yet. And without strategy. You feel like you can. Like even the motivated mind can't. Won't have. It will have a hard time to create any type of change. It's basically what I'm trying to say. And I'm going to have to repeat a lot in this episode. Because I'm trying to make it make sense in my brain.

06:00So that makes sense in your brain too as well. And I'm like. My brain is probably like a pudding right now. On because of this. My tiredness in my sleep. But I was like. I need to show up for you guys. And bring this episode for y'all today. And like if it's not. If that gap. If that gap is creating resistance. Right. That's what feels like laziness. What feels like. If your mind isn't yet latched on. To that clear vision. Or latched on to that strong identity. And your mind doesn't support it yet. That's where it feels like laziness.

06:31Because you're not motivated. Like you're. It's a hard time to create that type of change. Okay. So when you have a vision. A vision is the most emotional fuel. For your habits. So instead of saying like. I want to lose 10 pounds. Which I love that goal. First. But it's very like. It's a number. And you may not lose 10 pounds. But you may see drastic change within your body. It's very surface level. Instead like.

07:01Let's get deeper. Like ask. Who is the woman on the other end of this transformation. That I want to meet. Like. What does her morning routine look like? How does she nourish her body? What's her mindset? When life gets tough. And like. You guys being able to see that in vivid detail. Maybe she's strong. Maybe she's resilient. Maybe she's confident enough to choose. What's best for herself. Or. You know. She's present with her family. She's full of energy. She's proud of her reflection. She's proud of her progress.

07:32She's proud of X, Y, and Z. The clearer the image. The faster the alignment will take over. And your habits start landing. Without any type of struggle. This is where you start to close that gap. When you can see this vivid picture of the person that you want to become. And I've talked about this many times in many different episodes previously. When you can paint that picture. And you can see it vividly. And you can see how she's showing up. How she's acting. What her habits look like. What she's doing first thing in the morning. She's drinking the water. And you're staying consistent with doing that. Actually in the reality of what you're in right now.

08:04You start to close that gap. And now all of these. And you start to live in the alignment. Now. In the present moment. On a daily basis. And then the habits just start to land. And you start to see yourself not like doing these habits regularly. And looking back three months from that. Like when you're doing it for three months. Looking back. You can't imagine yourself not doing these habits tomorrow. Or the day after. Really getting into that vision of who are you becoming.

08:35Like I say that all the time. It's like not as to who am I now. It's who am I becoming. Who am I working to be. What does she look like. Like right. I always use the story of me having no idea what I was doing at the beginning of my journey. No idea how to work out. No idea how to eat right. Like I was very ignorant. And to nutrition. Like I didn't know it until I got obsessed with learning about it. And then implementing it into my day to day. But I would always see this vision of myself being strong.

09:08Being confident. Being feeling sexy in my body. Winning all of those shows that I won when I was in my bodybuilding era. Like I saw that vision so vividly. And I like understood how that person was showing up. And so and it was being disciplined. It was when the hard times come. It's like you know being able to get through them with discipline and with grit. And with determination with persistence.

09:38More so also being patient with myself. Knowing that mistakes are going to happen. I'm going to have days where I'm tired. And I'm not going to show up 110%. And that's okay. Some days look like 10% while the next day may look like 80%. That's okay. Right. So it's like giving like I knew that this was how my trajectory was unfolding. But I was living that on a regular daily basis. And then the next step that I started to like fall into was identity. You're not trying to be disciplined.

10:11Like on my day to day like I wasn't trying to be disciplined. Like I was disciplined. Like you are disciplined. Your brain has to believe that. Like it's the agent trap. Like when I have time I'll work out. That's what a lot of people say. But no it's like I am a woman who works out. And you have to really say those declarative statements to yourself on a daily basis. Like oh when I have time today I'm going to all work out. You can't live that way. If you have this vision of where you want to feel sexy in your bikini.

10:45Or you wanting to have longevity and add years to your life. Or you wanting to feel you know a type of way when you step in the room with your partner. Whatever. How you feel naked. Like you can't live in like oh well if I have time today I'm going to get to the gym. No I'm a woman who works. Like your future self. The woman that you're future casting to be in that vision that you have. Already has the identity of someone who works out. Because they've accomplished. That person has accomplished so much. They've accomplished all of these results.

11:15They've accomplished losing the inches. Losing the pounds. And more importantly the mindset of like oh it's not just a number I'm chasing. It's a lifestyle I'm chasing. And that's a part of the identity flip. And this doesn't happen overnight. I've said that in so many episodes before. It takes a lot of time. It takes a lot of effort. It takes a lot of rewiring new habits and unwiring old habits that don't serve you. But more importantly like you are showing up using these declarative statements.

11:45You're like I am someone who nourishes my body with intention. I am somebody who seeks out eating healthy on a daily basis because it makes me feel good. I am someone who seeks out feeling my body with the right hydration and the right nutrition. And hey while you're listening if you're getting value from this episode. Take a moment to tap that review button or share this podcast with a friend. It's a small gesture that goes a long way in helping more women find their way to feeling stronger and more confident in their skin.

12:19I appreciate you so much for taking the time to support this show. Like let me just be real transparent with you guys and real honest with you guys. Because this is a part of the journey. I'm 10 years in. But let me be real where those 10 years haven't been 100% on a yearly basis. There have been years where it's probably been like I showed up 70%. There's been years where I showed up 20%. This is a year right now you guys that maybe I've shown up about 30% from myself. Until last week I was like this is a hard stop.

12:52Some of you guys know that I'm in a new relationship. And there's been some things that come along with a new relationship of trying to intertwine those you know your two lives together. And alcohol on a weekly basis has become something that's just been like oh we're going out and we're grabbing a drink. We're having tacos. Let's have a margarita. We're going out with friends. Let's have a drink. And last week I was like I don't this isn't I don't this is not how I roll. I'm not really an alcoholic person. Even just a drink. Y'all know that that's not like some of you guys could be listening to this episode who have been out with me and had a drink and I don't even finish it.

13:29So last week I was like all right like six weeks I'm dialing it back. No no no alcohol at all. Because I want to like that's no me and the vision that I have for myself is someone who doesn't really drink. Like I'll have a drink here and there. But one on every weekend and on all the vacations that I was doing like it just my future self doesn't really indulge in that as frequently. So I had to have a real like talk with myself and with God too as well and be like all right like I want to get back to those who like getting nourished in my body the right way.

14:09Eating the right way. Hydrating myself the right way. Because I know that alcohol gives you a lot of fog. It's poison to the body. You guys one of the top episodes of this podcast is about alcohol. And it just provides a lot of fogginess and not good sleep and everything of which is in the opposite direction of recovery. And also in the way that you feel in your workouts and hormones start to go crazy and like all of these things. I'm just like all right I need that that thing needs to be cut out. But like what I'm saying is I am someone who doesn't do that on a regular basis.

14:46May do it once in a while but that's who that's part of my identity. So it's like getting back to that and living as if the person you are working towards you already are her. And how you show up to her on a daily basis. And then saying when I was saying it's not easy to do this years like when I just put a post out on Instagram. It's like discipline looks like Monday 100% Tuesday 5% Wednesday 20% Thursday 80% Friday 90% Saturday 10%. That's what it looks like.

15:17And I'm now spanning it over the years. 28, 2017 100% 2019 20 or yeah 2019 100% because these are the years I was competing. 2020 or well 2018 100% 2019 maybe 75%. 2020 was probably like 50% right. So it's even over a yearly span. And this is what it looks like to still they'll be like in the creation of who you are and the vision that you want to have the identity that you're stepping into the identity aspect is still you're gonna not be 100% on a daily basis or a weekly basis or even a yearly basis.

15:58But how are you showing up like I'm someone who shows up even when it's hard. And that's what consistency and discipline is like like when you speak this way your subconscious starts to rewire. And you start to act more in alignment. You start reinforcing your identity even when you have these like what I'm sharing with you guys with the transparency of like a hardcore like check in with yourself like you are reinforcing. I'm reinforcing the identity and over time who you are starts guiding what you do without relying on willpower or relying on motivation.

16:36It just starts you start acting more in alignment with the person that you are the person that you want to become. And the thing is like how I had to check back in with myself as well is identity without structure is just hope. So you have to support the identity. What are your non-negotiables. Right now mine's not having any alcohol for six weeks. Put in your workouts. Block those in your in your calendar. Block the meal prep. Reflect that time on a weekly basis on your calendar so you can see it every day.

17:10No excuses. So what are your non-negotiables for yourself. Because when you have this type of support and you're supporting your identity then you're going to have structure. And with this structure you're going to be able to lean more into the identity that you're painting for yourself. And you're building for yourself. Track alignment versus the results. Like ask yourself like did you show up for her today. Did you show up for that future self of you today. Not how much did I lose weight today. Did I step on a scale and were there pounds down. No it's like. How is the alignment getting more aligned on a daily basis rather than the results that you're seeing on a daily basis.

17:47Be ready for the dips. Like what's your response to a missed workout session or a trigger meal. Then like have an automatic reset ritual. Right. For me. I. That. This. This year is just a dip. And that's okay. You're going to have those. And it's more so getting curious and looking back as to why this dip is happening. Instead of getting. Being judgmental to yourself. Or breaking yourself down.

18:19Or talking yourself into a spiral. Like you know better. Why are you doing it? Like why are you showing up like this? How is your response to those situations? You're going to miss a workout session. You're going to have an off meal. You're going to have an off week. You're going to have an off month. You're going to have an off year. But what is your response to that? Ladies.

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19:21And results that last. Look, don't wait anymore. Take charge of your health and join our community of strong, empowered women. Visit WarriorBabe.com forward slash apply today to start your transformation. That's WarriorBabe.com forward slash apply. All right. Let's get back to the show. How do you get back after? Like the weekend, the 4th of July, we're coming up. It's the 4th of July right now on this episode.

19:53And how are you going to come out of this weekend? Right? You're going to have time to be with friends and family. You're going to have time to maybe have a drink. You're going to have times where maybe you're not getting your workout in. And you're going to have burgers. You're going to have hot dogs and X, Y, and Z and the ice cream. Okay. But like what is the reset ritual? What does Monday look like for you? What is your response to that? The reset ritual is like, okay, the holiday is done.

20:24You get right back to it. You get your workout done. You have your plan mapped out for your macros and your nutrition in the day. You hydrate extra because you probably didn't get that much hydration in over the weekend. It's not that coming into Monday, you beat yourself up. It's what is your response to it? And then what is the accountability? Like these are systems. You guys, what I'm saying rattling out right now is like systems to support your future self and systems to support your identity and the identity you're working to be born into.

21:01Accountability is huge. This helps to reinforce that identity. Accountability is like your identity GPS. Like for me, it's like, okay, accountability for six weeks. It's like all my people around me holding me accountable to that. And it's reinforcing me to get back into alignment with my identity. Accountability. So how, what does identity look like for you? Some of you guys are part of Warrior Babe. That, that identity, that accountability is your coach. That accountability is on Monday, you're going to check in with her and be like, yo, like,

21:31okay, for the July weekend's done. I'm getting back to it. The accountability is your check-in. If you're not a part of Warrior Babe, what can that accountability look like for you? Is it reaching out to your circle, your friends and saying, hey guys, like, all right, like maybe you have a workout partner and you need to be the one that's like, yo guys, today is we're getting back to it. I'm going to the gym. What about you? What time are you going? Your identity and your systems, what I just talked about, your non-negotiables, blocking your non-negotiables, putting on your calendar, tracking your alignment, tracking versus tracking

22:04your results, being prepared and how your responses are to the dips. And then you having the accountability, your identity and your systems start to feed each other. And then that momentum from these things that I just said starts to build very, very, very fast. Whether it is new to you that you are working on being born into the fit, healthy, this is who I am identity. I'm a woman who works out. I'm a woman who nourishes my body. I'm a woman who X, Y, and Z, who is more in alignment to the fit identity that you're

22:38working towards. Whether that is, if that is you, these things will help you to get on that momentum train faster. Whether it's someone that maybe you are like me and you've been at this for five years, six years, seven years, 10 years, and you had, uh, you've, you've been falling off the wagon. You haven't been as consistent with your workouts. You haven't been as consistent with your nutrition. Maybe, maybe you're someone that's been having an extra drink here and there. Now it's just the way you respond to it.

23:09And with these systems, the accountability, the, am I showing up for her today? Did I show up for her today? You know what success feels like. You know what it feels like to be in alignment with the identity. Now it's like, if you're off that, that a little bit, what do you need to get back on track? What does the accountability look like? And then once you do start implementing and re reinforcing these systems for yourself, that momentum is going to build very fast as well. Okay. So picture this, like your vision is so strong.

23:41You are a capable woman. Your identity is that you are her. Your strategy is a clear plan that folds into your real life. And then action follows each day. You prep your meals because that's what she does. You work out because you are the woman who cares for her body. You handle disruptions because you are that type of woman who shows up. Like this isn't about being perfect. And I think I made that pretty clear a couple of minutes ago.

24:12It's about consistent progress. And that is when the transformation becomes real and life changing. If you are the one that the bucket A of how I said you are working to build and be born into the identity, this not being perfect, but consistent progress is where the transformation is going to happen. When you recognize that strong, the vision is strong, you're capable of a person. Your identity is that you are her.

24:43And you, the strategy that you have, right? Like you are already showing up for in work, in life, for your family, for your kids, for your partner. You already show you're not lazy in that aspect. I want to kind of re recircle back to the, what I said at the beginning, like, it's not that you're lazy. It's just, and think about the way that you show up in those aspects. Are you perfect every single day? Heck no. The same thing applies for you working on your, your health and your fitness and in any rate and working out.

25:14It's not about being perfect, but it's about starting and, and starting to fold these things into your day consistently. Because that's going to get you to be the, like how you have the identity of a mom, how you have the identity of a employee, how you have the identity of a business owner, how you have the identity of X, Y, and Z. What did it look like to get there? That's the same thing that has to happen with your nutrition, meal prep, eating healthy, nourishing your body, hydrating, sleeping.

25:45That's all part of the identity of a fit, healthy individual. Okay. That's where the transformation bucket one, bucket two, you guys know that you already are a fit and a healthy, I have that identity, but it's just getting more realigned and more back into the, to the aspect of, um, this is who I am. And I'm going to do better at showing up as who I am and who I've been. And I just kind of fell off for a little bit and that's okay. There's no judgment there, but there is realignment.

26:17All right. So if you guys are in bucket A, draft your vision. Who do you want to become? Describe her in absolute 100% detail. What is, declare your identity. I am a woman who, who works out. I'm a woman who eats healthy and whatever it is that aligns with your vision. And then pick something that you're going to implement before, before Monday, like a scheduled workout, that accountability, you're going to meal prep, you're going to eat your protein, just protein prep, whatever it is.

26:49What is the strategic system? If it's someone in bucket B or bucket two or whatever I said, that's on my, my bucket. What is the one thing that's going to help you to be more realigned with yourself? Is it cutting out the alcohol? Is it getting back on the meal prep? Is it tracking in MyFitnessPal for a week? Because you haven't really been tracking, like I share in the intuitive eating podcast. Maybe it's that you haven't really been tracking, but you've been kind of like a little off the wire with the intuitive eating. So you need to kind of reel it back in, especially after holiday weekend. Maybe it's that.

27:21Whatever it is to get more in alignment with the identity that you are or the identity that you are becoming. All right, you guys. I hope this podcast helped you guys. I hope that you're going to have an amazing holiday weekend. Enjoy it. Know that you don't need to be perfect. And you can get right back to it on Monday. All right. If this episode resonated with you guys, please, I ask that you just screenshot it, post it to your stories. Let me know what popped out and what resonated with you guys the most. And remember, you're not lazy.

27:52You're just not aligned yet. Or you need to get realigned. Alignment and alignment is everything. When like all three of these things we talked about line up, discipline isn't a chore. It's just part of who you are at that point. All right, guys. I love y'all and I'll see you in the next episode. Peace out. Real quick. If this episode resonated with you or gave you the push that you needed, I'd love for you to pay it forward. Drop a quick rating and review. Share the podcast with someone who might need it and help me keep spreading the word.

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